Love

When will I be able to tell about love and relationships? After I have been in a successful relationship for years and in my death bed; or may be after a string of failed relationships? 

I am sure I cannot say anything now because I am not experienced. I am not even sure if something called love exists in real sense. Else how could there be a super big list of failed and unhappy relationships and few, in fact very very few happy relationships? Does that mean only very few people on this earth are privileged enough to experience love? That is bad. Or is that because, the people in happy relationship understand the worth of what they have at hand? I want to be amongst the privileged lot. But wouldn’t everyone in this world want this? So, how different am I?

In fact what defines a happy relationship? I care for my family and I cannot see them sad, because I feel pained too. As Archu was telling today morning when we went for walk that any person who wouldn’t mind seeing you cry is not worth living with. I cannot see my family cry and may be that is love.

What about the other love that exists between a guy and a girl? I am straight, hence not considering homosexual love. When can you say ‘I love you’ to a person? Should you weigh all the positives, negatives, emotions and then say ‘I love you’ or should that be spontaneous? I guess ‘I love you’ might come even more spontaneous if you are a person who rarely hate someone. In that sense, isn’t love the opposite of hate? But can the feeling that is not hatred be called love?